We all face difficult situations in life. How we figure out ways to handle that adversity can help us become stronger, more confident people or it can break us down. Adversity, or as I like to call it, LIFE, happens.
Adversity is defined as difficulties or misfortune. It can also mean bad luck, hardship, disaster, suffering, trauma, or pain. Or a whole bunch of other things!
The most important thing to remember is that adversity is different for every single individual and every adversity is VALID. To one person, an adversity could be a medical or health issue. For another, a traumatic experience. For another, a financial hardship. For some people, adversity is a challenge that they seek. For yet another, a string of small bad luck occurrences. Every single one of those adversities is valid.
So, of course, how we deal with adversity is going to be different!
I personally think it is acceptable to state, “I don’t like having to face this challenge.” Stating you have an adversity and stating that you don’t like it or want it is completely different than not dealing with it positively. It is facing it and acknowledging that it is a difficulty. However, state your dissatisfaction and then move onto fixing the problem. Continuing to complain about it will only drive your friends away. (Been there, done that!)
Don’t let adversity defeat you. For many, facing difficulty requires drugs or alcohol, or creates an unhealthy mental situation.
So what can you do?
- Rely on resources. Ask for help. Lean on a friend. Search for your personal strength.
- Acknowledge that adversity WILL happen. Accept that adversity is a blinding snowstorm and actively seek that sunshine on the other side.
- Don't take it personally. Adversity doesn't seek certain people, and while I frequently feel like I have bad luck, adverse situations can affect any one at any time.
- Be thankful for all the beautiful, wonderful things you do have in life! Love the people around you every day.
Fight the adversity and don’t let it bring you down! You can defeat it.